- Nina LaCour, Hold Still (via toocooltobehipster)
Anonymous asked: I have a tendency to be attracted to girls that happen to be religious, but am not so myself. How do I deal with this barrier?
Religion can play a large part in a person’s values and ideals, so it would make sense that you might have a pattern of liking religious girls. I’m not really sure what to tell you, though.
Personally, I’ve dated religious girls and am not at all formally religious myself, but I never let that stop me. What I do is focus on other aspects of the girl and usually our other interests or general chemistry is strong enough to where the other doesn’t matter. Not to say that it isn’t a factor at all or doesn’t come up, but I am really open to learning about religions and the concepts behind their teachings because to me, religious beliefs are more about how one should live their life and what kind of values one should have so it’s interesting to talk about why they believe what they do and talk about what I believe. I think the key to that for me is that I’m never really absolute - I don’t try to persuade or dissuade but instead just have a conversation about those things - and being open-minded is really refreshing to me. And there really is a lot more to some people than their religious beliefs, but I can see how some hold them higher and center their lives around it.
So as for advice, I say an open mind is the best thing. You don’t have to adopt their beliefs - if you find them interesting and attractive just get to know them and focus on the other amazing aspects of them if you can. It’s not really a problem unless either of you are like trying to impose your beliefs on the other rather than understand them and move on.